According to Stephen and Janice Graham of the Standard of Liberty, and authors of Chased by an Elephant: The Gospel Truth About Today’s Stampeding Sexuality, BYU appears to be too liberal (especially when it comes to gay issues) for the following reasons:
- “Department heads, professors, [etc], [preach]…socialism, radical feminism, anti-Americanism, [etc]…and popular homosexualism”
- “…BYU has made concessions, step by step, for homosexuality as an alternative sexual identity to be accepted and respected” Examples include:
I didn’t think it was possible to accuse BYU of being too liberal in regards to their stance on social issues like homosexuality. I was wrong. Surprisingly, it seems their efforts to fight “the gay movement” were inspired by their experiences with their son when they learned he is gay. But don’t worry, he found the box that’s gay and crushed it (so now he isn’t gay any more).
If you’re interested in reading more about the founders of the Standard of Liberty, I thought this was a thoughtful (albeit subjective) analysis of their work.
Anyway, I wonder how many out there agree with Stephen and Janice Graham of the Standard of Liberty that BYU is too liberal on gay issues (I think I know how many disagree)…
Encouraging Heterosexuality: Helping Children Develop a Traditional Sexual Orientation by A. Dean Byrd and Douglas A. Abbott
Many misrepresent my life and relationship by appealing to statistics (and not necessarily logic) on what gay men are like. A. Dean Byrd and Douglas A. Abbott authored a book available on Deseret Book titled Encouraging Heterosexuality: Helping Children Develop a Traditional Sexual Orientation that did just that. I’ve blogged about this book before, but today I’m blogging about it again to highlight the frustration I experience when people misrepresent the life I live.
A. Dean Byrd, former president of the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality (NARTH)
I recently came across this blog post that lists quotes from the book. To summarize, apparently the authors are of the opinion that gays (and lesbians) are pedophiles in that they “yearn for any-and-all sexual behavior to be permissible” including “adult-child sex”, “exploitation of children by adults”, “decriminaliz[ation] of sex between adults and adolescents”, etc. (I’m not sure whether these are accurate quotes because I’m referencing a second-hand source – I have no interest in reading a book that appears to be fairly biased.) The authors probably cite statistics such as these to support their claims.
I’m no expert on the pathology of pedophilia, but I am an expert on my life, and I’m familiar with the lives of my friends. I disagree with the conclusions these authors make based on my personal convictions and experiences and the convictions and experiences of my friends. There are many forms and types of sexual behavior that I (we) think should remain illegal including “adult-child” sex. In fact, I spent one year of my undergraduate career educating my campus community on the adverse effects of sexual assault. In short, sweeping generalizations such as those asserted in this book are incredibly aggravating, dishonest, and problematic. And I really hope few people accept these statements and opinions as truth.
I invite readers of this blog to share their thoughts on the assertions of A. Dean Byrd and Douglas A. Abbot regarding the myth that gays and lesbians are pedophiles.
Dan wrote a brief post on two approaches to marriage equality: one involves emphasis on equal rights and the other involves a comparison of commitment between gay and straight relationships. It will be interesting to see what happens as this second approach gains more and more attention.
You can’t tell me this isn’t something to be grateful for. Zion National Park is one of my favorite places on earth. And I get to spend it awesome people like Dan, his mom, and her husband. They’ve always been kind and welcoming and incredibly accepting.
If you’re not familiar with debates about gay marriage, they usually go something like this:
Gay man: I should have the right to marry.
Straight man: You do. No one is stopping you from marrying a woman.
Gay man: Well, the problem is, I’m not really attracted to women so…
Straight man: So stop complaining. It’s your choice and you choose not to marry a woman.
More direct debates usually go something like this:
Gay man: I should have the right to marry.
Straight person: No you shouldn’t, because if we let you marry who you want, what’s to stop other people from marrying a horse?
Gay man: No comment.
(But really. People actually use this claim to support their arguments against gay marriage).
In celebration of slippery slope arguments (and more), I’d like to share a cartoon and video. The cartoon explains, in the most simple language, the gay marriage debate. For all the duck lovers out there, the video uses very clear logic to demonstrate how the legalization of gay marriage will facilitate Scrooge McDuck fetishes.
iPhone 4S’s (aka Siri) End User License Agreement doesn’t cover marriage. I would totally marry her otherwise; she has a really good sense of humor. Perhaps that’s just proof of the slippery slope argument of gay marriage: if we legalize gay marriage then people will marry Siri. Anyway, here’s proof that Siri is a funny … personal assistant (and nothing more).
And I’m a little nervous about what happens when you click any of the suggested hiding places…
Emerson really knew what he was talking about:
“Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”
My critics, as of late, have been pretty forceful in communicating to me that speaking up means I want them to change their core beliefs, that I am not tolerant of their beliefs, or… I don’t really know what it is they think I think. Take this guy for example:
“your [sic] not changing anything, just making yourself look petty. There are some that believe homosexuality is a sexual perversion. Your [sic] can blog all you want about it, but you aren’t going to change their minds, and everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and opinions.”
I agree with the last statement: everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and opinions. That includes me. And I’d like to set the record straight on my own beliefs and opinions. I’ve never asked nor have I ever believed that Christians (or any other religion) need to change their beliefs on homosexuality. I just want to exist, go to work or school, come home, put my feet up, spend my free time with Dan, and enjoy all the other benefits other couples in my country enjoy. The only thing I’ve asked in regard to your religious beliefs is that if you believe in being kind to others (because that seems to be the core belief of most religions), that can include me (without threatening your right to worship how, where, or what you want).
I like what this guy has to say on the subject:
I’m a Christian, unless you’re gay.