You were married to a woman? You must be bisexual

An example of a microaggression directed at gays men in mixed-orientation marriages

I stumbled across a blog post written by a gay man who was once married to a woman. His ex-wife started a website for the straight spouses of mixed-orientation marriages (you can read more about that in the Salt Lake Tribune). According to the author of the original blog post, commentaries at the Salt Lake Tribune included statements like this:

“If he can have sex with [get aroused by] a woman, he’s bisexual”

The author explains why that is not the case and why he identifies as gay and not bisexual. Read his post and share your thoughts.

Why I’m Not Bisexual.

Stay together for the children: divorce and mixed-orientation marriages

This story from the New York Times is all too familiar in the gay Mormon community: a gay man, who doesn’t understand his attractions for the same sex, marries a straight woman.  (These marriages are referred to as mixed-orientation marriages.)  When women are viewed as the ticket to heaven (or exaltation in the Celestial Kingdom), the situation can be quite complex.  Emily Pearson, daughter of Carol Lynn Pearson, tells about her experience and the experience of her mom in her I’m an Ex-Mormon video.